Wanna know a secret?

It's ok to make mistakes. It's ok to fail. And it's ok to fuck up.

You're human.

Sounds nice when it's written down like that, doesn't it?

Truth is, "being ok" with making mistakes, isn't something we can learn overnight.

...The reality is, it can feel like shit when we fuck up. Especially if it keeps happening.

It can lead to the old voices in our head whispering...

"I always make mistakes!"

"I'm so stupid!"

"Maybe I'm not good enough?"

Those seemingly minor words, said every time you make a mistake, will lodge deeply into your subconscious mind...

...turning them from minor 'words' to major 'beliefs' that will affect your confidence, self worth, and subsequently cause you to make even more mistakes in future.

The trick here is to shift perspective on your fuck-ups, and identify with a different set of voices in your head.

Here's how...

Yeah, that's right, make them your new BFF.

They've just allowed you to learn, evolve and grow!

What did they teach you?

What purpose did they serve in the person you want to become?

Simple questions to instantly flip the script...

...and consequently, your mood.

It's done. There's no time machine. You have no control over it.

Dwelling on the...

"I should've!"

"I could've!"

...will render you powerless to those negative voices in your head.

You are no victim! 

Regain your power by giving your energy to the NOW.

By focusing on the present moment, you no longer mourn over the past or worry about the future.

It leaves your mind clear to channel your energy on solutions, rather than problems.

Take responsibility for your mistakes.

Normalise saying...

"I don't have an excuse. I'll do better"

The more you spend deflecting responsibility, the more pain you inflict on yourself and others.

Remember, people have a lot to think about.

They are more concerned with fighting their own insecurities and personal battles.

Bottom line.

People aren't dwelling on your mistakes as much as you think they are.

If others have been affected by your actions, what do they need to hear from you moving forward?

Don't take what they need personally.

If they need space, give it.

If they need reassurance, give it.

Helping others heal helps you heal too.

Forgiving yourself is just as important as others forgiving you.

The more patience and compassion you show yourself, the more compassion you'll have towards others when they too, inevitably fuck up.

Accept that perfection doesn't exist in anyone, and make a conscious commitment to yourself that you'll try to do better next time.

That simple intention signals to your subconscious mind that you are in control of the way you think, and it will begin to quieten the negative, self destructive voices.

If you're still struggling to comprehend the mistake you've made, and cannot seem to find any solutions to the way you feel...

...Turn yourself upside down, by doing an inverted pose like a downward dog, dolphin pose or a headstand.

I'm not joking. Seriously, I'm not.

By getting yourself upside down, you are literally and figuratively changing your perspective on the world and the way you see it.

It’s difficult to feel and see things the same way if you’re upside down.

It will open up space in your mind, giving you access to different perspectives.

Give it a try.

While the famous quote above might sound like the kind of cheesy Insta-quote you scroll past every day...

...when you actually stop and think about it, the intended message is powerful.

Everyone makes mistakes, and everyone has to deal with them.

It’s how you respond and recover that'll to define you.

By consciously adopting the above strategies next time you fuck up, you'll start seeing mistakes as opportunities to learn, grow and evolve...

...to the point where you'll begin embracing them confidently with open arms, rather then cowering away from them in fear.

It's all about perspective.

Peace, Love, Power,

Adam

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